Tolerate, or detonate?

It is ok to admit that your ND kids volume, stimming, banging, echolalia, questioning (endless, endless questioning), spinning, tapping, ball bouncing, fidgeting…

…is driving you INSANE.

When the demand avoidance, the bickering, the sheer number of sounds just seems to accumulate to the point where it feel’s like they are doing it on purpose.

They aren’t of course. These neurodivergent kids of ours aren’t giving us a hard time - they are having a hard time. Or sometimes they are having a grea time and all the noise is just a sign of their immense joy.

Knowing this, focusing on the knowledge that you have the privilege of seeing who these kids truly are, knowing they might mask elsewhere but for you they are their true magic-brained selves - it can make it slightly easier.

Know that I see you - you are having a hard time too. But as the grown up, as hard as it is, we have to strive not to give our kids a harder time than they are probably already having in the outside world.

So, tolerate or detonate?

Get yourself some noise cancelling headphones and try to tolerate. But forgive yourself when you detonate occasionally.